It happens from time to time. You’re worked up, she’s ready to go, and suddenly you can’t get an erection. While guys get that isn’t something that never happens, women may not understand. Of course you never want to be in this situation, but if you are here’s what you can do to ensure that she doesn’t write you off.

Be There For Her

So you’ve tried everything you can think of and it just isn’t happening. This doesn’t mean she didn’t also put in effort. Instead of just calling it a night, give her what she needs. Oral sex is your best friend in this situation. Just tell her you want to make it all about her, and make sure she has a great time. The fact that you couldn’t sustain an erection won’t be such a big deal if you tried to make sure she was pleasured.

Don’t Blame Her

When this happens with men it’s common for a woman to assume they haven’t done something right. They can see this as a personal failure. You need to make sure that you don’t do or say anything that feeds in to this assumption. If she thinks it’s her fault that you weren’t aroused she will probably not call you again. Instead reassure her that it has nothing to do with her. Tell her that you would have loved to be able to finish, and pay her a compliment or two. She’s more likely to understand if she knows that you were aroused, it just wasn’t working below the belt.