Ending a date can be frustrating and confusing for many people. If you want to go further but are unsure how to approach this, asking them back for coffee is typically code for sex, if they ask if you are a swinger they are either curious or you’ve overdone it when bigging yourself up. There are some ways you can do this without sounding like a creep.

Be Prepared To Make Coffee

If you invite your date back to your place for coffee and then no coffee pot is found, you’re going to look like a creep. Even if your date was in the mood, they likely won’t be after this. You should prepare to make a pot of coffee regardless of whether or not you want it. If you don’t have a coffee pot, invite them back for tea, or other drinks.

Accept Rejection

You may ask your date back for coffee and they turn you down. Don’t fret, this happens, it doesn’t mean they aren’t interested. They may genuinely need to get back home for something. Don’t assume if they tell you they have to work early that it’s just an excuse. It may be for real. You can always ask again next time.

Don’t Pressure Them

If they decide to join you, don’t automatically assume this means they are game for sex. They be on the fence about it, or just may want to actually spend more time with you. Once you are inside, you can start to make the moves, but back off quickly if they aren’t responding well. If you have another date later down the road at least they will know what to expect if you ask them for coffee, and they may be more receptive to it then.